I believe that for thirteen minutes in a day a person is true to himself. The rest of the time he is living in a world of make belief. This game of make belief that begins at a very young age, where we play games like “chor police” or enacting our favourite super stars, little do we know that we are going to end up spending our lives in the make belief world. The better we are at it in our childhood, the better we will be when we grow up.
Though there is an existence of reality and our presence is in reality, we still create our own make belief world. The love, affection, trust, desire and nature we show to people are often make belief. We have realized the importance of socializing and now are beginning to realize how important it is to bluff your feelings and nature, just to seem more agreeable to society, to be accepted, to be liked, to be needed and wanted, “to go with the flow” as some people call it.
We start in school when we realize that to fit into the ‘’friends’’ category we have to do some things that we may not like, though we really do not want to bully the frail looking class mate, we have to do that to be accepted in the better group of friends as we seem to believe. Here starts our make belief world.
This is followed by the college make belief world, where we portray ourselves completely in a different manner. We now have a new image, the old bully or bullied image is now replaced by a fresh new chalkboard image. This image is whatever we imagine it to be and we work towards securing that! We show our interest in debates and public speaking because we believe that will get us importance. We show our talent in music because we believe that we will be better accepted. Most people learn to play the guitar in the hope that some girl will get impressed rather than actually having to enjoy the music. We try in every way possible to get our social acceptance, in every way possible, by hook or by crook. We use the new and the unknown as an advantage, we use people’s innocence to our benefit as they don’t know who we actually are, we can create ourselves to be whoever we want.
Another parallel make belief world we create is of the lover. I am not disagreeing with the fact that we may be in love, but behind that love there is also the acceptance of many unwanted and undesired things, for example your lover may be very loud, but with the love that you have for your partner you may behave as to seem unaffected by it, when actually your blood is boiling from inside. Here again we make compromises, going for romantic movies we never liked or drinking wine that taste worse than a diet coke. We all make our partners feel special by indirectly adjusting to their needs. We keep up a smile on our face to show that we like what they are saying when in reality it would least affect us in any way. Here we play the role of a perfect lover.
And once we start working we are always playing it sophisticated, working according to the way society wants you to. We have to impress our boss, look at the business channel or the news to make ourselves feel important, own a car, big house, big parties, designer wear, because that’s what society expects you to have to be a successful man! We are expected to be charitable with our wealth even though we have worked day and night to amass such wealth, it’s not the society’s money so they don’t care, all they have is expectations.
Even though we don’t care as to how many people have died on the street when we already have sick people living in our houses with a first class ticket to god arriving any moment. We don’t really care as to how rich people are and their assets in billions on the Forbs top ten list, when we barely have enough money to pay the rent. We read about the top ten colleges in the world when we can’t afford to get into the ten worst ones, because we don’t have the calibre and neither the money. Yet we still read this information, to make conversation, to connect to society.
But amongst this entire make belief world that we live in there is those thirteen minutes in our lives that we are true to ourselves. Where we just block the outside world and be ourselves. Thirteen minutes a day we are who we are, and we do not care about what the world thinks. For everyone these thirteen minutes comes at different times. It may come to some in breaks and to some continuously. But it is destined to come, and we can neither help it nor stop it. But the truth is that we don’t mind it, and we never will, because we love it and wish every moment that this would last forever but, life just isn’t fair. We move on, waiting for the next day, where once again those thirteen minutes will give us a reason to live, to live for the days to come, no matter how tough, how happy, or how sad the situation might be. We should embrace those thirteen minutes, understand it and cherish it. For they are rare and do not last very long. Be yourself people! Be yourself! Believe in what you believe, not in what others want you to believe in!
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